THE TRAPS OF AFFECTION ( II )

If the bond of a persistent couple does not facilitate bring out the best, is necessary to rethink the meaning of the relationship and where it leads. What motivates to want the presence of someone daily ? The desired or supposed experience with someone´s company, in what proportion is it fulfilled ? Give up time, space, resources, for what purpose we do it ? What do we want couples for and to do what ? Having children is a social act because they affect society in multiple aspects. Who thinks about this apart for the responsibility of potential parents in collective incidence ?                                                                                                   We wish and we want to believe that through someone we like due to some characteristics, we will experience feelings of well being, but these only are portions of a whole. We must be able to observe the pros and cons widely for an approach or distance, and the scale will decide whether or not if the relationship is viable. Sharing everyday life limits and conditions only for a few hours, taking into account the time devoted to work and sleep. If the person in question is not really enchanting for various virtues, Is it worth mortgaging yourself for someone´s company if there is no common task of sustained growth ? The theoretical learning and teaching that the exchange has to offer can it be produced taking into account the prevailing worldliness and superficiality ?                                                                                                 The trap of affects is give priority on the emotional side which make vulnerable in feelings, and these need the guidance of the intellect to discern between the ideal and the disadvantage.                                          To feel good, being with someone is not synonymous of better. Boredom is caused by repetitiveness, the predictability and stagnation. We sacrifice the silence, peace, and quietness which are priceless goods that can not be brought to us from outside, for an hourly company without a defined goal nor individual or common progress.                                                                                                                                             Partner, children, they bring out the best in us or are part of our interests with any background that has little altruism ? Expressing and receiving affection is the best feeling to experience, but we must know how. And if it costs so much to have rewarding relationships is due to unfocused approaches of the ego and its pretensions. Partner and children are the biggest challenge due to proximity and involvement. Be prepared and able for the differences to converge for the common good is the most difficult task, hence the constant problem of finding the appropiate terms and expressions.