WHAT DO WE WANT TIES FOR ? ( I )

Why do you want changes ? To  improve the existing one by replacing it with something else. What do we want ties for ? To establish more satisfactory conditions not achieved before the bond. This is a consistent approach, and in any significant modification it is necessary to observe the context and benefits offered by being free from conditioning obligations, and the restrictions of mobility, time, space and resources that entails to acquire an habitual bond or of daily coexistence.                                                                             The idyosincrasy of the person and longings can favor internalization or externalization. If is toward intenalization, without a doubt the constant presence of someone is an obstacle to having moments of silence, peace and collection for the practice of exercises, instruction and reflection. Living as a couple requires maximum coupling, a fit that begins at the mental level with similarity of ideas, complementary emotionality that generates proximity and purposes in a similar direction. All the factors driving to the union, because in short it is about this.                                                                                     What do we often observe ? People attracted by the physical, by a singularity, some talent, that captivates at the beginning, and as times passes and characteristics are discovered and above all shortcomings, the initial enthusiasm decays if there is no solidity that can sustain it.                                                                  It all lies in words and actions. What is said, what is done, the tone, the manner, they will incline towards what we like or dislike. The question is : What you like about certain words or actions that captivate and from here think about tying up with this person ? Given the prevailing social mediocrity the overvaluation makes it all the more special, and this for be lacking in remarkable people.                                                  The gaps we don´t know how to fill by ourselves disconnect from our center pending the periphery, with the belief that a specific peson  with its deficits, selfishness and immaturity will fill us, are unrealistic fantasies.                                                                                                                                                          Subconsciously we want to tie ourselves to someone because deep down we know we will be tested, and the link will involve precise experiences and situations for learning. This will be only possible with a developed consciousness, and with the desire of perfect our expressions and behavior, if there is no such motivation, then share chats, money and perhaps activities, but without a purpose of growth, the tie it will not make us better nor will the supposed satisfaction occur as we imagined.                                                  Ties to go where, to do what ? To perpetuate rutines and boredom, or to take on challenges that encourage effort to expand individual and commom potential ? Limit ourselves for development work, or have a part time company that mortgages life.

THE 10 FORMS OF NEGATIVE SPEECH

It may seem that there is only one form of negative expression that encompasses everything, but like many other things there are nuances and distinctions.                                                                                               1 - Malicious talk. This is one of the most haarmful practices, since it affects who are addressed the comments, to sender because of the negativity spread, and the atmosphere that permeates the vibrations.   2 - Mumble. What profit is extracted from them ? Does it improve the fund, the people involved, the subject itself ?                                                                                                                                                   3 - Lies. Lies it means saying what is it not, for fear, for interest, to hide facts and the possible consequences.Be that as it may, that which deviates from the truth, never succeeds because it wants to pass the non existent as if it had existence and consistency.                                                                                   4 - Flattery. What purpose does the flatterer pursue ?Falsehood with ulterior motives is often the trigger. There is no need to soap up in front the evidence, the facts are the clearest exponent.                                   5 - Nonsense. The nonsense comes from a low cultural level, of a defective discernment. Squandering energy with useless conversations brings not benefit.                                                                                     6 - Controversy. It is a mixture of evil and interest, and it points to both mental and emotional impurities product of a mental narrowness and pretensions that can not prosper.                                                            7 - Anger. Always present when desires are not satisfied in the desired form or measure, when the events don´t happen the way we want.                                                                                                                         8 - Proud remarks. Self hype for little things. Everyone´s talents are just loans for a purpose, desire for personal improvement and social sharing.                                                                                                       9 - Cheating.Sincerity is the basis of every relationship, and if it´s not there it disappears the confidence, and without confidence nothing solid or consistent can be built with perspective. Cheating can suppose some kind of momentary gain, but as the foundations are not consistent, sooner or later it will end in failure.                                                                                                                                                              10 - Humiliation. When we believe that are more than others for a question of money, social position or has some advantage or privilege over others, considering inferior to someone by belief or comparison. Everything is a consequence of ignorance, of egocentrism, of insensitivy towards the proism and what is different, towards what don´t like, and this only can change introducing the refinement of superior nature getting rid of harmful forms