THE LEVEL OF CONVERSATIONS ( II )

All our efforts go in search of quality. No one wants miserable conditions, and the desire for improvement drives us to overcome ourselves. And this so easy to understand it must be extended to conversations.

What happens in the day to day ? The same stereotypes that make the questions and answers are repeated. We follow the standard patterns, improvisation is lacking, turning the exchange of what is said into one more procedure.

Many words, a lot of repetitiveness and very little resolution. It could save the chatter that leads nowhere, and if this tendency prevails it is because one can only give what we one has.

What level is there in couple conversations ? Is there mutual enrichment, an expansion of horizons, a development of consciousness ? Or just go commenting on the day, any anecdotes and little else ? What real interest is there between brothers to know their concerns, how do they feel ? Do we have friendships that can be expressed sincerely, or do we prefere those that tell us what we like to hear ?

To go well the meetings must be synthetic, short-lived and spaced in time, so before the boredom arrives we will finished them.

Focus on the underlying topic, say the precise. More time and more words it means no more satisfaction, as in the drink.

In regular relationships is difficult to find attractive reasons for conversation if people know each other well and the margin for surprise is low. 

What exciting news can be discussed from day to day in the family sphere ? What depth is there in what is spoken in a couple, between parents and children, between friends ?

How many words do we utter in a day, in a year ? How many were necessary and useful ? How many sterile ?

We talk too lightly, and instead of addressing unproductive cheater, we should try to endow ourselves with a quality global, because then we could convey it in conversations.

Do we want exchanges with essence or content gaps ?

THE LEVEL OF CONVERSATIONS ( I )

Through words we communicate, and with these we establish conversations. We transmite knowledge, opinions, sensations, and this happen each day several times.

We can find in occasional situations, crossing some words. Others asking or asking us for information. For work, family or friendly encounters. The reasons can be various, where the important thing is that the commented either more or less have substance.

We must know what we say and why we say it. To talk it means leaving  our center, and if we are to make it for profit. This consideration is not taken into account in banal society that surrounds us, where straaw and little grain prevail.

Conversations can bring together or separate, resolve or spoil conflicts, show us sincerity or lie, encouraage or depress, raise or sink, all lies in the meaning of the words and the tone.

We should ask ourselves : how many conversations are necessary and how many are expendable ?  Of all the speech what percentage is useful ? Of regular or sporadic meetings, how many provide learning ? how many make us think ? how many of us are excited for conversations ? how many indifferent or boring ?

A lot of people when they haven´t seen each other make the typical comment : we have to stay. The question is : stay to talk about what ? If there is not enough affinity, similar interests, a similar level, catching up on what´s new can be done in minutes. And once updated, where will the licensee to exchange arguments, or assumptions lie ?

Most have worldly interests, and these are limited and transitory. The conversations of those involved are repetitive, revolving around the same spheres. From time to time changes one tab  and is replaced by another , but the background remains the same.

Is there a deep interest in getting to know the other ? we are able to externalize what is hidden inside us ? how many people with their intensity can make us vibrate with what they say ? how many want to go beyond the routine repetitiveness of many conversations ?

How we express ourselves, the topics covered, the footprint we leaves or the quick forgetfulness, highlight the level of each one, and the capacity for influence.

Talking sooner or later is inevitable , the question is for what and what to put on or take off when it happens.