Man and woman they have been created back to back. Will they turn ?

We are all the product of the union of the two male and female principles, therefore although externally in the physical aspect we distinguish ourselves by a certain sex, the other principle is also in us.                       Man and woman have been created back to back. Everyone looks in opposite directions and they can´t see each other faces. The work of both consists of turning around and seeing each other head on, to identify and establish agreements based on implicit differences and that they work for unity in diversity.                  Be the same in essential but different in the rest. Fit the differences is a constant task taking into account the respective code of values, criteria, and quite opposite conceptions on several significant fronts. What is needed first is to acquire deep archetipal knowledge of the same gender, and then do the same with the other opposite to ours. Know why we are the way we are and the cause, giving us much greater and more satisfying possibilities..                                                                                                                                    Men are transmitters at a mental and physical level, and receivers in the emotional aspect. On the other hand, women are emotional transmitters and mental and physical receivers .Aware of these basic points, it is a matter of good disposition arising from a coherent broad discernment and the indispensable affection  it brings to establish links.                                                                                                                                The challenge is to internalize the qualities of the other polarity in us to not have external dependencies. And because this task is difficult and requires great effort and discipline, we hardly incorporate the attributes of the other sex in the optimal magnitude. Hence the majority look for the supplement that they believe will cover gaps or deficiencies.                                                                                                           Love binds, wisdom unties. What do we want ties for ? For love of someone or for own because of what the bond may imply. To bind oneself is to limit, and there must be a compelling reason and one purpose. The social evolutionary level in all cultures, is not enough developed to establish a couple relation that is the more demanding, and allow both individual and collective progress as a whole due to personal interests in oneslf and the interaction and one refined sensitivity to express altruistic love.                           Before conditioning ourselves with the responsibilities that will be incorporated we must ask ourselves primoridial questions . Why want this relation ? Can drive to show the best ? There is authentic enthusiasm in what I feel ? What I can supposedly earn can have more value tha what I enjoyed before the engagement ?                                                                                                                                                    There is too much fantasy, supposition and imagination over the idealization of what may lie ahead to fit in all areas. Choosing a partner in the west is usually for love, but this must be guided for wisdom, and fit both, because is the only manner to understanding both and have possibilities in the continuity that it will have to be constantly monitored.

WHAT DO WE WANT TIES FOR ( II )

The essential point for a nexus to report profit is the fit. We check it inside a clock, a circuit, or the key and the door.                                                                                                                                                      Everyone has a uniqueness, we will not find anyone exactly alike manifesting in everything like us, therefore, in the differences lies the effort if it is intended to combine the contributions of each part.           If we want fluid exchanges we have to find out our own character to know where the strengths and weaknesses are in order to proceed appropriately in each relationship and context that allows the best fit for the intended objectives.                                                                                                                            There must always be an interest that pushes us to leave us and have bridges of proximity with someone.   ¿ what are we looking for ? ¿ what exactly do we want ? ¿ what can the other provide us that we can not ? ¿ and what can we offer in exchange ? In order to make a suitable approach, the wider the self  knowledge, the better it can be the favorable result in the intended. If we don´t know how to define why we are like this nor distinguish whether we are on the right track or not, coupling with someone will have little chance of success. Unfortunately, this is what has been observed time and time again.                                             Unconsciously we acquire ties to some characteristic we like, retreating to a very narrow margin with respect to the whole, and once immersed in the adventure of commitment, the day to day awakens us from the illusion with " the lot " of each one, the complete package of who we are, surfacing disagreements, tensions and discomfort, and what seemed so beautiful suddenly lands us.                                                   We should not expect the feeling of well being from a single person with his impurities and shortcomings, why the most precious goods are intangible, and peace, silence, tranquility, and recollection come from within.                                                                                                                                                                What real progress have couples experienced after decades of coexistence individually or together ? Have we deciphered what we had to learn, polish, amend through the other to improve our expressions ? Of the previous imaginations of supposed satisfaction, what percentage has been evidenced ?  how many times have we thought of undoing the link due to boredom, stagnation and without a purpose that justifies the continuity ?                                                                                                                                                       It is the calculation of various factors that prevents the merger and the progress of the exchanges. The superficiality that permeates the relationship deprives of experiencing quality, and if we add the selfish part and considerable immaturity, it is not possible to achieve the purpose that must be provided by the fit of the two distinct identities working as a unit.