COHERENCE

Is actually consistent what we say and what we do ? We say one thing and do another different ? Why it contradicts what is said and done ? The reasons can be various : mindlessness, interests in some sense, precipitation, lack of clarity, and especially imbalance between the inner and outer.
It is an usual fact note inconsistencies, in the people closest to us, in the field of labor, in people who occupy key positions, and this create a bad image, loss of credibility, mistrust, because we can not trust in someone who says white and then shows black when act.
Really think the meaning of the words ? The effect of these ? The consequences of the disengagement between spoken and expressed ?
Feign, wanting to be what we don´t, generate a false impression with a hidden order, there is always a reason that has to clarify the dissonance between to say and to do, and often, in a frivolous environment, trivial, nor the same protagonist really knows that pushes to behave in this manner.
The incoherence is a disconnection, it is like trying to connect a wire in a mistaken place, and evidently it doesn´t work. The coherence is to tune the different elements coupling them correctly for its purpose and good use.
To go evidencing incoherences provokes distrust, lack of credibility, bad image, rating down, distancing, to avoid near treatments for the danger that suppose. It is a bad business to be incoherent, people go away, and the implied in question instead of extracting benefits what picks up are lost.
What failure on the way ? The lack of fit reflects an imbalance between what they want to believe in others and the performed action, and the triggers that drive to behave as well are multiple.
When we are coherents there is harmony, and this is transmitted to the outside. In the inconsistencies there are confusion, doubt and suspicion about a cloudy part hidden but obvious through the contradictions.

REACT OR RESIST ( II )

If we react to external events due to the behavior or others r circumstances, we became the effect of what happens. If we resist observing in perspective, preparing the best option for what has been generated, then we will be manufacturing the cause to plan and decide what we want and what is more convenient.
React is being trapped in something unpleasant created by third parties or for some personal action that does not come out as we would like. Resisting is accept a facts trying to extract an advantage.
The reasons that drive to react are diverse, they are by discontent, to wait for a different expectations, to value something with a result below the desired.
Resentment by expressions or the behavior of someone. Pride according of self importance and the treatment received by others. Revenge if the feeling is of having been insulted, injured, with desire for justice to satisfy primary emotions.
React is to show anger, speak with words or sour forms because they have received bad words or forms of other that in any way condone. React is an expression of the ego : what are saying to me, what are doing to me, what to be thought, what are believed.
Resist it´s a sign of maturity, of tranquility, look in perspective, nor to see the other as bad, but as the means for opening, of opportunities to make adjustments more careful.
In what is useless because it is impossible to communicate with the caller, withdraw is the most convenient.
Expect to change a damage only serves if there is willingness in both sides, the ability to listen, not wanting to impose by force the criteria themselves, but what was equitable thinking in the common good.
What is unfeasible, where there is no understanding, no confidence, which is harmful, it is to be left to pour energy into relationships and appropriate conditions.
Scream, insult, be offended, indicates that you are angry because there is no what we want as  we would like, and in some ways is a little child respond in these terms.
Keep calm, polite behavior, it is that makes the difference between someone who is in charge of the situation, without alteration. Lose the composure is being overtaken by events, responding instinctively without logic or with good judgment.

REACT OR RESIST ( I )

Assiduosly there were tense situations, which is not annoy us each time when dislike it. When harmony breaks for an event and its consequences, when someone disturbs the tranquility with words or clumsy actions, we can not allow ourselves to be trapped by circumstances, because the emotional response may be lack of essential clearly, and instead of fix worse what exists.
According to the own character, the particular code of values, many things can be annoying, but hte unpleasant lies not in the speaker and their emissions, rather in the impression received and what stir them in us. We can commit actions actually punishable, harsh expressions feeling attacked, but behind the facts there is a reason for you to enter a different context, or by shaking take out conclusions to modify some guidelines.
The others are intermediaries to enhance our development, and in spite of  frictions and controversies, these are only the envelope of some possibilities to expand the consciousness by improving the attitude.
People who seem enemies actually are friends dressed up as, the difference is that force us to mobilize the reserve funds saved for emergencies, and thanks to them we can overcome obstacles and strengthen us if we know face it with firmness.
Too much tranquility don´t allows grow, it is necessary from time to time new challenges to access to higher levels. And what the principle is heavy, which implies a handicap, if we resist the initial discomfort and we hope to respond with the aprropriate tone and time, then what seemed negative becomes positive.
The bad thing is that the majority immediateley feels offended, replicating wounded without giving enough time to the logical in search of conciliatory solutions.
If we react harshly the fire increases and lengthens the conflict. If we resist without finding ourselves or feel victims, we can decrypt the message of what has been said or done to find illuminating patways that lead to the adoption of positions more useful to us and especially the way to deal with dignity and correction to the neighbor even though they do not so with us.