WHY DO WE WANT WHAT WE WANT ? ( I )

Wanting requires appreciation. Without appreciation there is not desire, and if we don´t give value or even rejection, prevents wanting. Wanting is the key that set us in motion, wheter by own will,need or obligation. We want what nourishes us : food, resources, knowledge, affections. And also other elements that are not indispensable but desirable. Wanting involves selecting and choosing according the possibilities, tastes and desires. Wanting contains several phases : maintain or increases the existing one, eliminate some of what we have or get the unavailable now. We want quantity and that it contains quality, and being able to access these depends on current evolutionary circumstances of each one to have mental clarity and fundamental resources to carry out the approach and appropriate actions to facilitate it. We must want optimal material conditions to execute the individual function according to the place we occupy and the social contributions to perform. And on the journey discover the potential and shortcomings to find the intended purpose of goals that go beyond the apparent. To want is to add or multiply in what we intend, and subtract and divide in what we want remove. We have to see clearly if what we want suit us, otherwise we will be embezzling resources that should be invested in the profit. A bad investment instead of entailing gains become losses. We want things for us o for give it to someone. For personal use or external items, and before to decide the acquisiton by investing time or money, observe the purpose and practical application. Wanting implies quantity with the exception of the intangible ones which cannot be measured such as silence, peace or tranquility. The quality of the quantity that is measurable depends on the materials, its precise treatment and location for the intended useful service. We want immediate things,in the short medium or long term. We want prolong well being and reduce the discomfort. We want health,good conditions, and getting anything there is always an exchange between that we can offer and the goal to achieve, and the better eqquiped we are in every way best benefits we can get.

TO FIT OR NOT FIT

The proper functioning of what surround us it´s a matter of fit. Several individualities with the respective singularities and contributions, need the support of other individuals, where the resources and shortcomings of each other to carry out exchanges that supply the desired, if they fit together, the purpose of the established links is achieved. To fit is from duality, 1+1. Externalization pushes us to be linked by dependencies, and in a constant offers and demand on a personal and commercial level the ideal coupling must occur in each context. Surrounded by animated and inanimated objects, of people and animals, all have a function and benefits, trying to relate to us in a timely manner for profit and harmony. Subject and object conveniently coupled is the milestone to pursue at all times. Between sender and receiver, give and receive, there must be a nexus that allow the proper connection, because the bonds pursue some kind of fit; otherwise the links are useless. We fit with others through tastes, ideals,specific affinites, feelings, goals. If it is the opposite we will not be able to fit. Tastes, ideas, different trends, it will be difficult to fit if there is no point to unclog it. We can fit by equality or similarity, and also by differences when each party provides what the other needs as a complement. We feel comfortable with who we fit into one or more points according to our idiosyncrasy, and especially the way we think and value what we have. And on the opposite side when others differ discomfort immediately arises. This is due to the egoic forms of reaction. We may dislike it and disagree with the exposures and/or manners of someone, but the opportunities to extract messages and profit it can come from both what is pleasing and unpleasant to us. The fit on an epoch with friendhips and couples, when the paths diverge, proximity becomes distance, and passes to the non fit, indicating that the fit must be continuosly monitored. In one way or another we all look for the right way to adjust us, because discord is what does not adjust, and therefore does not serve. Reach an agreement between the parties that intervenes, know how to behave, make a fair deal, these and other factors they must lead to fit , because if we are not skilled by proceeding properly, the result will lead to non fit.

DIALECTICAL BOREDOM

Much ignoraance and little knowledge is the prominent tonic. The majority interests are personal and material. Vision and focus arise from limitation and are superficial. In the face of this evidence, what communication can emerge ? Reiterative arguments, always wandering in routine matters, what final profit are we able to extract ? Where everyone is, interests, the concerns, certain inclinations, the ability to understand, values, is what we show in conversations, and if we stopped at one point and didn´t move, the only thing we do and keep doing is going around to the same subjects that do not contribute novelties nor a broader perspective to break inertia. In an encounter catching up requires a few minutes, the posterior extension with insubstantial banalities is to add filling comments and empty the backgrounbd chatter of content. We can only give what we have, and listening everyday a lot of linked words to say nothing neither provide reflections nor useful learning, it simply reveals the very long pending path of development that is indispensable to realize to consider ourselves evolutinarily advanced. Global limitation keeps us in this society of constant conflicts with the consequent relationship problems. The years go by and the utensils of daily use change, more comfortables, with more benefits, and instead of applying it as well in our behavior improving the precise areas, we continue with the multiple expressions that lead to discord. As a result of not knowing how to behave, the retort are demonstrations, strikes, demands. It has ever been able to succeed if it was unsustanaible to preserve the existing, without a force to impose, succumbing to the minority of power but with the executing force. As well as useless repetitive speeches, the same form of vindication in actions which mantain the prevailing immobility, should think about a change of strategy, a different approach that overflow the status quo, because only with words and some threat, is not enough to demolish the armored wall of those who govern, and to make this possible is necessary to increase individual and collective wisdom, on the contrary, perpetuation of dialectical and also everyday boredom.

WHAT WE EXTRACT FROM EACH THING

Mobility means the pursue of some kind of achievement. To do for do not exist, consciously or unconsciously the dynamizing motivation is the extraction of a result at the end of the journey. If there is no interest, if we are indifferent, if we find out that efforts will be in vain, we don´t get started. We have inserted into the deepest of us profitability, which can bring a benefit, feeling of well being, although depending on what is involved later it can cause discomfort. We need to see clearly the goals with pros and cons, if it is worth the process we will have to speed up and the possible results. If perhaps it is better to focus on other more profitable areas, because every action has consequences, and these will be in line with the correctness or incorrectness. What do we want to extract ? What advantages will be gain by pursuing certain goals ? We can not receive attacks quiet and silent, because they are only possible by what we say or do. Someone may say that there are people who have received insults or aggressions without giving rise to it being so. What we don´t know is the history of each one and the triggers to end up receiving. Sometimes out of commitment, out of friendship, out of affection, we do not seek to extract anything for ourselves from the action executed, in these cases, the extraction of the task is done thinking about the satisfaction of the other person. In any field, whatever the activity, from the most relevant to the most insignificant, if there is no possibility of an extraction in the form of benefit or enjoyment, there will be no indispensable motivation to set us in motion. Our pretensions need a means of action, provide us with physical and mental resources, and establish connexions with people and utensils as a support for the dynamized end up bearing fruit. Shortcomings and dependencies force us to fit in the individuals with the collective. And this must serve as a reference for the coupling and the harmony extends to all areas to set the optimal guidelines focused on the common good

CHRONIC INFANTILISM

What are the characteristics of the infant stage ? Maximum dependence, unconsciousness, ignorance, desire to selfish receive, global limitation on being in the process of formation. The progressive maturity where should lead us ? Precisely to the opposite factors. Parents are the basis of support,and the spearhead to project us socially depends on us once we acquire the indispensable development. How many adults remain unconscious for ignorance ? A lot. And if is so it means that childish reminiscences are still present. How many people already of working age remain self centered without considering others in the need to perform equitable exchanges in the eternal give and receive ? In each epoch we should be in line with its specificities, what can not be is to increase the age but not mature. Child self centering is normal due to deficiencies, for emotional responses, but then we have to be responsible for what we want, of what we do and the consequences, and this mean taking into account the incidence of our actions in the environment. When we blame someone for the events by shedding responsibility; when we demand in bad ways; when we have to win even with traps; when we deceive, exaggerate, distorts the facts; when an observation or reflection can not be endured in order to improve as if we were perfect and had to correct nothing; when each movemment is only in our behalf. All these manifestations are a reflection of chronic infantilism. Who is truly mature is serious, responsible, assumes the consequences of the task, it does not seek excuses, but solutions, and instead of complaints, focuses on expanding horizons in the experienced.

BETWEEN CERTAINTY AND UNCERTAINTY ( II )

Immersed in duality we face the day to day between the certainty and uncertainty. We have the certainty that we have to face specific tasks, we know how to do it, but as long as the hypothetical future does not become present, uncertainty will remain as to how the facts will unfold. Certainty is unity, the verified, the known. Uncertainty is duality, perhaps yes perhaps no, because it has not been completed or has not been verified. We want security, but the subject to movements and changes cannot be assured. What is permanent, indestructible, strengthens the confidence so that is it predictable. The subject to oscillations, not controllable by us, depending on nature or other persons, inevitably keep us in the uncertainty. We begin the day with a few purposes, a new day to fill, but we don´t know what will happen, what contingencies may arise, of the planned what will be executed and what will not. The conditions of the moment, adjust and readjust continuously. In a second what was firm, solid, consistent, can deteriorate or disappear. Our life made to make constant connections between the left behind and the next novelty, it does not guarantee durability. Now we are here present and tomorrow we don´t know if we will continue in this world. Everything is transitory, provisional, but we must proceed from action to action, from one realm to another in an everchanging present. The certainty acquired by knowledge and experience are the resources employed in the purposes, and as we fill in the gaps, uncertainty becomes certainty. The spiritual precepts are intangible, and we see through experiences the results. They serve as a reference, they are permanent and eternal, being a mainstay of certainty when checking them over and over again. The actions commited for material purposes must be based on spiritual principles. The principles give us certainty, the process underway is uncertain, with the certainty that the result will be in line to the approach or distance respect to the basic principles.

BETWEEN CERTAINTY AND UNCERTAINTY ( I )

For more planning, each new day must be filled with knowledge and resources. Let´s look for what we don´t have, uncertainty for certainty of how to proceed. We obtain certainty through experience and results. We rely on precedents. Uncertainty can be an unfinished process where external factors can bring unforeseen surprises. Certainty are evidences from a past, and uncertainty it has connotations for the future. Certainty is an element of security, and uncertainty is synonymous of insecurity. Let´s be more or less aware, everyone knows there are some patterns to follow which serve as a referent to act to fit into the collective. If we follow the postulates trying to be correct, we can have the certainty of good results at the end. Instead, the transgressions materials or spirituals, sooner or later lead to a debt to pay. The uncertainty is not know when neither how nor in what proportion. Certainty requires testing : weigh, see, measure, because if we can´t weigh, see or measure,then they are assumptions or perceptions, and if they not materialize in facts they are only speculations. Certainty wants tangible demostrations otherwise we can not be sure. From uncertainty to certainty it passes on the basis of concretions. And for more mastery or knowledge, if it depends on third parties or the environment, uncertainty will hover. The dependence on nature, on exchanges, makes us vulnerable and it keeps in uncertainty about what we will get in the short or long term. Between the desire and the reality we are constantly debating, in a changing environment at the mercy of uncontrollable elements, and for more knowledge of cause, uncertainty accompanies us every day.

TRAIN PATIENCE ( II )

Face things with patience is a training without end, because new situations usually appear that precises an adoption of serene postures. Patience depends on many factors, and the fit between what we want and what is multiple components come into play. Innate temperament is what makes it easier to increase and decrease a patiece response. There are people who are almost immutable and others who are nervous with great difficulty fitting in the face of adversity. The cultural sphere is very important according to the proportion of understanding or ignorance to face it depending on what challenges. Seeing it more broadly allows for an approach endowed with more possibilities, that not having it can lead to rushing. Not because having more studies implies easier to show patience, sometimes it´s the other way around, because when you see the shortcomings can be impatient just to fix it quickly. The section richs/poors, it also makes the things differently. Those accustomed to delays, poor services, resolute postponements, from so much experiencing it they end up forging patience to the force. The rich with capacity of selection and election, they are more likely to get impatient when events do not go as they would like. Not everything that we want can be nor is it appropiate on some occasions. Patience is a barometer of our responses, where we must know how to restrict if the occasion requires it, do not rush in say or do depending on what, adapting personal desires to the environment, to circumstances. Acceleration and speed do not fit well with patience. The sense of measure and precision call for a slower pace, because ultimately from the actions we claim a profit, an utility or satisfaction in some terms. More years they must behave more experiences, see more broadly the pros and cons which is ultimately implicit contribution contained in the patience.

TRAIN PATIENCE ( I )

Acquire patience is a matter of time, that can only get it when we accept that the desidered not depends only on our will, but a coupling between the individual contribution and the means of action. It´s a challenge to human self centrism willingly abide that things may not be as we want them to be. At the present time the events may not be as we would like, but they are always part of a larger gear, it is difficult to understand where there is no choice but to adapt continuosly to a string of situations outside our domain. Increase the patience is lower the ego voice, understand that we must fit in with the collective from the respective individualities, that the environment does not revolve around our whims. And between the longed for and what is now possible must be forged the patience. The area that puts the patience to test are relations. No one thinks or feels or acts identically to anyone else, and instead of wanting to impose criteria closing us to different alternatives, for the benefit of both parties it would be best to contrast diversity to broaden horizons. It is common to be convinced that we are right in what we are saying because otherwise the discourse and focus would be different. And here is where lies mainly the source of conflicts, unable to put ourselves in the place of the other and less accept the diametrically opposit to our convictions. We have inevitable links for assiduity, with some we understand better, and not in others, but in both they are just what we need, and often the most irritating is where we will find learning and subsequent benefit if instead of responding from the ego we shell out the messages taking advantage of them to establish more suitable postures. Patience is to know wait, that every question has a time more or less long to develop, that we depend on others and the means of action, that we are limited, and if we flow with the universe and an order beyond the comprehensible, the patience always accompany us.

APOLOGIZE. ¡ AND THEN WHAT ! ( II )

As many times as we want we can say sorry, and this will not change the episode at all. To excuse oneself is to acknowledge that one has not been careful enough, is the first step to correcting oneself and the correction in subsequent events it will be the true value. What is punishable and what is not ? What is offensive and what is not ? For what concepts should forgiveness be sought ? Not having calculated some movements accurately, some misguided words. Impetuosness, lack of experience, lack of discernment, disregard, many may be the reasons which make express themselves in a non harmonic way. An ego offended by sensibility deserves no excuses, all it has to do is mature and see in perspective. Those arrogant, supremacist, when someone doesn´t say or do what they want demanding the thousand and one rectifications while they abuse and mistreat finding it a normal fact. Of all the aberrations they would like to carry out, that if it is to excuse itself. The same patterns are repeated day by day so that unfortunately selfishness and ignorance are entrenched in society, and we see how day by day medicority deteriorates links, and instead of providing solutions, it increases conflicts. Of what it serves to say sorry for looking good if what is neeeded is a change of behavior that we always wait and never arrive ? To say or not say sorry no longer erases what has happened. From the most insignificant to the most relevant it has caused a break in harmony, if we want to improve, we are equitable and willing to strive, discord can help you be more cautious by taking more careful measures. Superficiality and unconsciousness deprive us of seeing with due clarity and extent, being the causes of the banalities that surround us. Everything counts and has an impact, and when does not know how to measure the echo of what is said or done, then happens what happens. Attention in the present should make it easy to adjust parameters showing us neat in what we manifest, avoiding having to apologize for dissonances for the implementation of the correct.