MANNERS

In many ways as other polarities, also there are two ways to behave : correct or incorrect.
The correction is what has to prevail in accordance with provisions of civility. In any area is always going to the search of neatness, because if we don´t act according to the parameters considered correct, we are exposed to negative consequences.
All you know, more or less conscious, are subject to standards of conduct. The question is : because if it is in the public domain why people act with negligence in many fields ?
The impropriety can be expressed in wide variety, in words or deeds, but that " apparent satisfaction momentary " of the aggressor in one form or another has just in vacuum losses and other more according to the context.
There is someone who thinks is important by the fact of having something explicit, treating bad to other people if thinks that they are less. And precisely, according to how we show we can see if there is class or is lacking in it..
The correction is to take care of the details, from the smallest to the largest. Thought is the origin, the seed, and needs to be fed properly to ensure the ideas are projected with clarity and harmony.
If the seeds contain intelligence, consideration and respect, the result will be positive. On the other hand, if the capacity for discernment is wrong since the beginning, thinking only in the own desires, with a shocked expression, sooner or later the actions will lead in problems.
The neat forms are allies, gross are enemies. The correct is what has been to cultivate if we want a good fluidity and operation where we let.
Who acts with education, is friendly, attentive, generates a suitable environment for the exchange. If is on the other hand, lack the above said, the warmth will be impossible by the lack of the most elemental civic.
We learn from the people what to do and what not. Some teach to enhance certain forms, and the other to avoid them by their harmfulness. Both serve to growth, some of the things we have to increase, and others in what we need to eliminate.
Who is sloppy, driven by malice and ignorance, can get some revenue momentarily, but good manners have just been imposed by the logic and the forcefulness.
If we want our things going in the right direction, we need to know which patterns we have to root for give the optimal expression. The expressed with its incidence, clarify if we are tuned or not, contrasting with evidences. We must be able in our movements in order to be more accurate reporting more advantageous results.

GOALS TO ACHIEVE

The most important thing is to achieve harmony, because it has to be present at all, is the base where rely to project ourselves into any purpose. And when it breaks or disappears, mobilize the appropriate in each case to reestablish it.
By the contrast between different units we have to fit the various parts in the precise location to make your contribution, and this calls for knowledge. There can be no harmony if you don´t know how to proceed.
Through links one thing leads to another, establishing the order, thanks to the prior learning, which underlies the proper functioning. In the absence of a certain domain, is likely to prevent any loss, disruption and difficulties.
The first step is to know ourselves. We can only act from our individuation, and is of primary importance know what we think, that we intend to do, that needs to be done and if we are well on the way.
We must strive to find out our skills and deficits, since we are assuming here to run the works, serving the awareness to reinforce the abilities seeking alleviate what was pending to improve.
Continually we have to influence on the movements in order to cultivate virtues for our benefit and that of society, because the defects cause problems, forcing pause to resolve them.
It´s convenient to have goals of overcoming by maintaining a continuous motivation that gives value and content the efforts, achieving the material goods needed to operate in the middle with a broad autonomy, moving in a changing unstable environment guided by eternal concepts that will preserve the strength and firmness, and poise where those immersed in the mundane weaken in the face of adversity.
The comprehensive training beyond labor, is the key factor to tame the ego, handing over the separative part, generator of conflict, for the purpose of dealing with the challenges from an integrative perspective.
The respective singularities, with the multiple contributions, have to create links to a common benefit. We are all within a vast field of connections, and as a circuit, the various components are linked to a greater purpose.
We live with the individual within the whole. One is because of the other, if the individual fails the whole suffer, and if the collective fails the individual is affected in some way.
We have freedom, free will, but before execute any action with their subsequent consequences, we have to bear in mind the constraints and limitations, demanding wisdom and courage in order the harmony prevails at all times whatever we do, wherever we are.

AND THE CHANGES, WHEN ?

We change clothes, hairstyle, telephone, car, this does not cost too much. The question is : Despite all the changes, we polish, we realize about our handicaps, we feel better ? Everything that money can buy, the ephemeral, we can experience it with some satisfaction, but lasts only a moment. Once the novelty past, loses value when losing intensity.
As individuals, as a society, we are always engaged in conflict, when no working affaires, relationship, if not health the economy. It is our inner poverty which triggers continuosly problematic of all kinds, that generate huge inequalities, that having an immensely rich nature of we nourish, it turns out that many people cannot be feed, and much more live in precarious conditions.
Everyone wants to access to a quality as a whole, but the same actions do not lead in this direction.
We have politicians where are supposed to be at the service of the people, to be an ally, and it turns out that in reality are criminals camouflaged.
Like a climbs of unscrupulous speculators that can threaten the stability of the most elemental.
The gains made by the technology are very good for work, but once we turn to other areas, we continue with the same dilemmas since centuries ago. There has been little modified human character, therefore continues to maintain wild forms, abusive, destroying in order to gratify a few aberrant interests.
The external changes that may provide more evenness, the harmonious distribution of wealth, access to global development, we do not come neither by capitalist nor communist system. Only can be feasible for a change in consciousness, realising that if we cover the source from where all we drink, all will succumb, the hiper rich and the poor.
The ancestral selfishness has been the permanent obstacle to progress as humankind. Never has been resolved the problems because the force has prevailed over reason, the personal goods before the collective, and maintain these guideliness is never ending conflicts without solution.
We have valuable instruments in us, considering the free will to decide how to use them, which approaches gives, and observe the consequences of any claims. The particular experience and others previous precedent are relating to organize and deicde how to proceed best, where the responsibility is ours.
We have capabilities to build great feats, and also for large barbarities, where the difference to decant the balance in one sense or another can lead us to heaven or to hell in Earth, it depends on the approach and action that triggers. - Where do we want to bow ? So far, we have made toward the hell, if we want to do it toward the heaven first we have to transform ourselves, and there extend it into the external everyday.

ABOUT THE TOLERANCE ( II )

Many people make mistakes and does not support any indication, reflection or suggestion to modify the behavior. The pride and ego are bad advisers, bearing in mind that the ultimate goal of any committed is approaching to the maximum correction.
It seems as only the police or relevant authorities could warn them because exert a socially accepted role to establish order. Teachers, parents, in our childhood, can be a part of this group, the rest has to silence the evidence not to offend these irresponsible.
It is a question to clarify incorrect forms of those that do not support get exposed for their misdeeds, while serious people and efficient suffer directly the consequences of careless procedures lacking in coherence, consideration and attention.
Many people don´t give importance to the idleness, to unworthy treatment, where unfortunately is a common fact that really nitpicking even the more fighter. They know that are not correct, but they wouldn´t listen to the powerlessness to change the prevailing.
People have become accustomed to not answer messages, letters, or pay at the appropiate time, to name just a few examples.We are witnessing a bleak picture in that multitude of aspects don´t work because of  the mediocrity that does what it seems without taking into account the consequences or think about the neighbor.
We have to consent this accumulation of incompetence ? Not to react or take measures before the low quality of actions or inactions that harms a person who acts sleekely ?
We are in the personal assessments of each one before situations where some may consider annoying to make noises, give blows or other constraints, and others do not. In the face of uncertainty, a plus of consideration and respect for better living together is what has to been to seek.
It may not be that rude and inconsiderate will be upset  if we put them in evidence to correct, and those that receive the sloppy ways have to hang in and not complain.
This attittude disable the concord, because proceed with negligence, wanting the impunity and do not claim to be amended, leads directly to the ruin.
Everything that breaks the harmony, becomes soiled, it goes against the natural balance, injures, hurts, it was not to be tolerated. Is the order who must prevail not the chaos, the dignity and not the contrary. If we agree that these individuals getting off unharmed, is to accept the degradation as inevitable.
Where, when and how must begin and end the tolerance ?

ABOUT THE TOLERANCE ( I )

When we hear or see written "tolerance" evil, because behind the word there is someone who has not acted with enough correction.
These that go preaching tolerance on behalf of a magnanimity, of a capacity for empathy, to minimize errors, in part is good and in part is bad. It is good that we are all exposed to not always be spotless and has not been crucifiy anyone if it passes, and it is bad when the laxity lowers the level of demand losing quality.
In reality the universe does not accept the tolerance, and you only need look at the closest to us. If we fail an exam we have to do it again if there are opportunities to do so. If we break the law receive a punishment in the form of a fine or imprisonment according to the case.
We are subject to cause and effect. According to the cause will be the effect. We can deviate from the path, but we must bear the consequences in the form of dangers, deterioration and discomfort. It is worth not to stick to the rules intended to proceed with righteousness ?
Is therefore because whatever we do we will collect what it planted. If we have acted properly we will have no problems and we will be able to view a few fruits for the work done. If we wanted to transgress the laws of  nature that are supported in harmony, we will have complications, difficulties will arise, and instead of fruit we will have losses.
We have to be condescending with who is at the beginning of a new learning, first need an accurate shooting of instruction and practice, and those not dominate at the beginning, may be done at the end of the time. However, in the process of initial disregard to the later knowledge, there has to be demand because if not we will not make any headway.
The tolerance that emerged from the understanding has to be on time and with a foundation behind it which hold, otherwise would be to rewarding the offender, leaving the way to do what he want without consequences.
The right word in according to which situations taking into account the different levels of evolution and cultural is " accept ". Accept that there are differences, that the powers are not the same for all, that the degree of intelligence and sensitivity determines the attitude, and the wisest is who can understand who it is less, that each person is free to think as they want, but when it comes to acting with the incidence of our acts, we have to stick to a few precepts for the rule of civility.

DILEMMAS

Be faced with several options and do not know which to choose, that sometimes it will be unimportant things, but when the decision has an impact on most remarkable factors with regard to us or to the neighbor, the dilemma will be to choose.
The common question in these cases : what I want ? what I do ? This carry to measure, analyze, assess, and acording to the context, priorities, interests, where the own character with the particular concepts, capacity for discernment and perspective, will be the key to making the right decision and the relevant action.
The election more or less adequate, will depend on the inner harmony and life style, having more concerning anyone who has a considerable introspection and live with patterns of balance. They would become resources acquired by a set of thoughts and actions which prepare the individual to meet diverse challenges.
To more self knowledge less dilemmas, because the same general sharpness respect to us and the environment that surround us, facilitates the coupling without the hesitation that accompany those missing of enough clarity.
Over the years, by complex situations that could become present, if we have taken advantage of the time, the disjuntive will be reduced to having incorporated a growing intuitive wisdom.
The part of uncertainty, doubt, supposses a portion of darkness that we want to clarify. It is about observing in width, to see the possibilities and decant to unblock the situation if it is the case, and after to introduce the appropriate variants face to a favorable resolution.
Dilemmas can be of all type, focusing them in terms of I like, I don´t like, I need or not. Also, that now is valid for several reasons, can change adapting to new tendencies according to the personal own readjustments.
What we should focus more attention on strive to be fair, correct, when we are confronted with unusual experiences where we don´t know exactly what to do in order to not mistake or disturb.
Always will emerge not controllable facts that will require a response on our part. What counts is to be fair, not allow themselves to be misled by negative emotions in relativizing what happens and the consequences; because at the end of the day the importance of each thing and each case is strictly personal without general application.

SATISFACTION - DISSATISFACTION ( IV )

There are four factors that determine whether we feel happy or unhappy. What we do, what we have, what we get, and the type of relationship where the valuation as a whole decant the balance toward one side or the other.
What we do is the most important, because it is our latent potential in action, where it has to reverse in a fruit that has to give a reward. In the preparation, the effort from one phase to another, progressive development, we have to taste the process with what has been happening, and whatever activity the more intensity more capacity to achieve satisfaction.
What we have as resources in the form of skills and assets, gives us access to certain conditions and benefits. If we have a high academic level the options for paid work will be higher, and if finances are consistent, the capacity to make choices and more options will lead various facilities.
What we get has to do with what we do and what we have. The more dynamic more possibilities to move things, depending on the approach and the powers to extract a benefit.
The type of relationship is as important as the other sections. In what we do, what we have and we get, the others are always intervening, without their cooperation we could not obtain neither the degree of training achieved nor incomes for autonomy of movements.
Often, centered in our ambitions, we don´t think in the neighbor with enough attention and consideration, when it is thanks to the contribution of each one that we now enjoy a lot of benefits and services.
The satisfaction has to come from the expression of virtues in works of profit, in the desire to contribute with something useful to anyone who needs it and what you want, get out of the self centered usual tasks to focus on support of the collective.
The satisfaction lies not neither know much nor wanting all kinds of worldly pleasures. The satisfaction comes when we are able to fit with the greatest possible number of people establishing cordial ties, caring and helpful of mutual reciprocity, The rest are only preparations to achieve this.

SATISFACTION - DISSATISFACTION ( III )

We seek the satisfaction in temporary factors because they do not know how to find lasting satisfaction, returning to the dissatisfaction precisely because what we are looking for is in the transitory.
Accustomed to look at the most immediate, external, mundane, many people are convinced that if you have this or that, they will be satisfied. And without doubt provision of material goods is not bad, it allows some resources, a certain quality, but they are not an end in themselves, only a medium.
If we are going to the search to be satisfied with a stability, do not have to rely on things or people that are now and after not. The periphery is to exchange, where the work is done, but everything is like a loan that comes and goes, nothing is our exclusive property. Neither family, nor sons, nor couple, we identify as "mine" to distinguish them in relation to others, they are free, its function is not providing with satisfaction, but if they are closer in terms of link is to learn and so wide horizons for our behavior may be possible.
As humans we are always wanting for gestures of all, more attentive, generous, fair, helpful, etc, and precisely if we receive all of this first we have to grow and develop in ourselves transmitting it in our relations. However, by not showing these attributes due to the usual egocentrism widespread, we scarcely and also receive in similar proportions. The thing is clear, or increase first the quality of the expressed in us, or exchanges will persist in the same level of poverty.
Eat, drink, play, life of luxury, such as flares are released into the air, the effect last an instant, and if the action is only thinking in us, after the initial blasts come the vacuum.
We are not here to pursue false dreams, we are here to discover who we are, what we are here to do and commit ourselves to do it. And this implies engage the personal goals with those of the collective, and will only be viable with a gradual opening of awareness facilitating change, sharing and giving; because everything that we have now is the result of a multitude of exchanges.
The vacuum is not to have, not to be. The fullness is to have and to be, and on the road to achieve this have had to increase the self through mobilizing the powers in a relevant manner. If we have and are is because we are able to proceed with success in relationships made during the journey. Part of merit is ours, the other through external contributions. And the satisfaction will increase when the ability to balance will be the keynote.

SATISFACTION - DISSATISFACTION ( II )

The true satisfaction is not focused only on the external, in physical pleasures or in obtaining some objectives, goes beyond. Feel satisfied must be the result of having fueled a potential achieving, a significant result according to the personal code of values.
Most believe that the satisfaction will come from having a lot of money, comfort and feel loved. This helps to provide conditions more comfortable, acquire an increased quality, but as it is not something material itself created by us, cannot generate true and lasting satisfaction.
We would like to receive samples of attention, warmth and affection, it is normal. However, there are many relationships poor or very poor, and then what we receive is an assiduous disenchantment. What we are looking for is not what makes the neighbor by me, because it is not up to us, but we can do, what we can to give to be useful.
When we turn to the others by offering our contribution with our skills and resources is when really experience satisfaction, the rest are simple attempts that we never will vibrate with the same intensity.
If the surrounding environment is what it is and the prevailing conflict by all sides it is because the selfishness, looking only in their own self interest, and the extend of generalized form are always producing conflicts of interest that separate themselves. Ourselves with our attitude and proceed generate the dissatisfaction we feel and accompany in all areas, and will continue to do so while not to change the trend of thinking, feeling, and acting only pending of the particular benefits to do so by engaging the needs of the individual with the collective.
We are too outstanding of the own self satisfaction, leaving aside or treated badly to the other, when the reality is just the opposite. The more we are outstanding to the other and better treat them, automatically we feel better. If the people are unaware of this is because of the awkwarp shapes in themselves and by the sloppy forms of behavior that originate from deteriorating conditions present in many areas.
If we want experience satisfactory situations, we have to create avenues of understanding and willingness to collaborate and help, seeing things in perspective where the unit in harmony will prevail over the separation in discord.

SATISFACTION - DISSATISFACTION

Satisfaction is to fill the measure of a wish. We need to know wether it is appropiate and that can bring.
We are going to search for what makes us feel good, but in this persecution is desirable to find some kind of obstacle in order to reinforce the skills based on perseverance.
In doing may have the satisfaction when it is effective, and also dissatisfaction when we forced the results or are poor. If carried out is healthy, it is a confirmation that the procedure is correct. If on the contrary the negative prevails, these contain the information of what we need to review to give a different orientation.
We need to clarify where we believe that we will find satisfaction, because according to it if is possible or is an illusion, and shall see how it fits into our character and if it should be really. We must not ask for what want the ego, but more suitable for the soul. And instead of focusing in irrelevant issues attract the conditions to cultivate virtues.
The objectives have to aim high, not to the usual platitudes that we are accustomed to serve as a little for his inconsistency. Crave an increase in wisdom, selfless actions, leading a life more peaceful, and more affective capacity creating harmonic conditions, this will make us feel satisfied, without external dependencies or short duration.
Dissatisfaction has to intervene as a factor in overcoming, not complaint. The balance between the two trends will keep us dynamic, being just one of many polarities.
The code of values, tastes, measures, are part of this tandem. If the expectations are too high can lead to dissatisfaction if not minimishing the effects with a sharp observation relativising it.
It the alleged satisfaction finish in dissatisfaction, notes an infounded expectations, bloated or inconvenient.
We want certain things with the belief that we like or love it, and sometimes it is appropiate experience disappointments to learn lessons, that if we note in the long run we can transform in future satisfactions.
Dissatisfaction may be specific or existential, in both cases we need to know the reasons, cherish it in perspective and outline a plan for that may straighten in a more favorable sense.
What we dislike about us or the environment is a way of inharmonic proceeding, and having so many things which can lead to excess weight, addictions or harmful diseases. This are mechanisms of compensation to alleviate frustration, and more that serve it harms. Insisting in addiction extends the basic problem if you do not remove the cause.
The solution is easy : go to the root of the conflict, make a determination and act accordingly to replace the useless by the useful.