APOLOGIZE. ¡ AND THEN WHAT ! ( II )

As many times as we want we can say sorry, and this will not change the episode at all. To excuse oneself is to acknowledge that one has not been careful enough, is the first step to correcting oneself and the correction in subsequent events it will be the true value. What is punishable and what is not ? What is offensive and what is not ? For what concepts should forgiveness be sought ? Not having calculated some movements accurately, some misguided words. Impetuosness, lack of experience, lack of discernment, disregard, many may be the reasons which make express themselves in a non harmonic way. An ego offended by sensibility deserves no excuses, all it has to do is mature and see in perspective. Those arrogant, supremacist, when someone doesn´t say or do what they want demanding the thousand and one rectifications while they abuse and mistreat finding it a normal fact. Of all the aberrations they would like to carry out, that if it is to excuse itself. The same patterns are repeated day by day so that unfortunately selfishness and ignorance are entrenched in society, and we see how day by day medicority deteriorates links, and instead of providing solutions, it increases conflicts. Of what it serves to say sorry for looking good if what is neeeded is a change of behavior that we always wait and never arrive ? To say or not say sorry no longer erases what has happened. From the most insignificant to the most relevant it has caused a break in harmony, if we want to improve, we are equitable and willing to strive, discord can help you be more cautious by taking more careful measures. Superficiality and unconsciousness deprive us of seeing with due clarity and extent, being the causes of the banalities that surround us. Everything counts and has an impact, and when does not know how to measure the echo of what is said or done, then happens what happens. Attention in the present should make it easy to adjust parameters showing us neat in what we manifest, avoiding having to apologize for dissonances for the implementation of the correct.

APOLOGIZE. AND THEN WHAT ! ( I )

When someone apologizes it is because an error has occurred, a negligence, a blow, some misguided words or other motives where the offender recognizes the discomfort or harm by becoming consciousness with empathy that drives the subject to apologize. There are minor incidents, of medium or large size, according to the particular valuation of each. The much or little or nothing depends on what is considered important and/or significant. By not being able to reverse it what is said or done with was has entailed. If we have fallen with a push, if someone broke a glass, if we have been humiliated, saying sorry does not change the experience. The question is : Could it have been avoided ?If everything that happens has a purpose, surely the assailant and the agressor they needed to play the role of victim and executioner to have the opportunity to observe in depth where the origin can be, reveal it and be able to correct the precise. Action comes or back ? Karma paid for the victim or new by the agressor ? We will have to find out previous behaviors, ways of acting, relationships that have led us to the episode. There is a double recognition when we said forgive, I´m sorry. The incorrectness and affectation in the person who receives. If it was to wipe out outstanding debts, instead ob being annoyed by the inconvenience, we should that to the offender for the opportunity to release charges that sooner or later it was convenient to get rid of it. Is the agressor really ? Is the victim really ? Or is it to restore harmony ? It is a matter of following a process of events of what we have manifested. Insignificant or relevant incidents are signs. We have to be careful to the movements and possible consequences. Mismatches should be used to take precautionary measures thanks to the experience. Clumsy forms must be used to redirect expressions or actions. Apologizing is a good symptom that the offender recognizes the mistake and its incidence. To mend oneself is the contribution of becoming aware, passing from the incorrection to the correction. Each non flawless episode is an opportunity to increase the attention, learn, and calculate better what we say or do.

WORDS AND ACTIONS ( IV )

How are the words formed ? How we the choice made ? Why do different people have their distinctive language ? Is the word born of association between subject and object ? We have been creating words as new have tools have been incorporated and her function. Once a name is established it is valid for everyone serving as identification. We only store the words we understand. We work with minimum that for us represent a maximum of what we are able to express. Words serve of bridge between the internal and external, between the pesonal and social. Thought elaborate ideas that it extracts from words so that they have a later utility. Thought is the basis, words the intermedary between abstraction and concretion. Words pronounced or written with what they transmit they can tell us various facets about us, It´s a matter of deciphering them and drawing conclusions. Diversity has forced the creation of words as a distinction to know how to deal with each component. To relate involves to communicate, and even with signs or gestures, these also implicitly carry a word behind them. Words explain what we see, that we feel, what we want. How could we do if they didn´t exist ? Only with sounds ? and from the moment we identified these sounds, we would be already be creating a word. Words they must enrich us through knowledge. And broadening the perspective to generate optimal patterns of behavior for personal and social benefit by trsnsmission. What use do we make or will we make of words ? From what they give off the result will lead to gain or harm or indifference. By their deeds and words we shall know them.

WORDS AND ACTIONS ( III )

Words and actions are the means of expression, but there are things that we are not able fo find words because are sensations where some part remains inaccessible to consciousness What we have said or written, what is not manifested in actions, has been able to remain latent, and in the end what counts is the evidence. Words serve to distinguish one thing from another, identify them and locate with respect to a context. The word is the beginning of densification from what arises from thought. And the action is materialization. We can only put words to the tangible and perceptible. The intangible and the imperceptible can exist, but if it is beyond the reach of our consciousness it is non existent for us, and therefore unidentifiable. Words and actions bear witness to expressions. Unrealized imaginations or projects are diluted without leaving a record. Words identify, link and communicate. The misunderstood such as unknown languages, prevent connections about what we hear or see written, and therefore these words if we do not their meaning do not serve us. Words allow us to move in the environment knowing the appropiate timely treatment in each case so that our movements are safe. Surrounded by immensity and thousand of words, we only use of a small amount as well as the diversity that surround us. What counts is that with more or less the purpose of development and progress be constant, nourished by words and actions that solidify the goal that dynamizes them.

WORDS AND ACTIONS ( II )

Words and actions they are the means of relationsship between us and others, between us and the environment. The conception we have of what surrounds us, the ideas and beliefs, it is elaborated through thought in the form of words, and then some of these will remain in expository theories, and others will want to materialize in actions. Before acting we must know what we want and what needs to be done, extracting the process of words that serve as a reference and support to know how to proceed. Just as words arise from within, action always takes place on the outside. Words want to express with a mental and emotional component in which cases. The actions give shape to the previous indications provided by the words. The tendencies of an epoch according to tastes and preponderances, if over time they change, it will also affect words and actions. What we say and do today indicates what we think, feel, or want now, and tomorrow may be diametrically different depending on the circumstances. Words are elastic, we can extend or compress expressions, but the actions are what they are. Two senses can intervene in the words ( heard when they are heard, and seen when they are read ) Actions depending on the context, can participate in all senses. Hands participate in written words and actions. The mouth does so in the oral part. The two lips and the two hands, indicate the two principles in motion, being transmitters and receivers. The mouth and eyes are the active part in words, and the hands in writing and acting. The ear the passive part that listens. The action takes place on the outside, after internal elaboration of the thought. The function of words is to link what springs from within for an external application. Actions densify what words mean. There may be words without action, although speaking is already a dynamazing fact, but is not possible to act without a precedent indicated by words. Words can tell truths or lies, actions are evidence. What is said or not, in what is done or not, we show the whole conglomerate of distinctive factors, and every day and every moment we need to be clear about what we want and what

we want to do, because the imprints left will mark the future.

WORDS AND ACTIONS ( I )

We express ourselves by words and actions. The origin is thought, and this is possible thanks to the words, finding us in the dilemma that what was first if the thought or the word. The words are responsible for identifying, relate and link what surrounds us and thought is who order.

Thinking through words, without these it would not possible establish connections between us and the environment. The words connect the seed and the fruit. In what is said there is a mental component and a sentimental one depending on what is involved.

In the first instance we maybe attracted to someone by beauty, and case of establishing a relationship, words and actions they are the ones who will finally bring us closer or farther away, because the interactions are made by the combination of both factors.

Men and women fall in love with words and actions which give a value according to each. And observing what surround us, the bar is set vey low if we note the behavior of these people. And in spite of everything the enchantment emerges.

The key of feeling comfortable or uncomfortable, relaxed or tense, lies in the affinity that is established between those involved. Getting closer or further away depends on the fit between what we think and want, with what is said and done.

When choosing partners or friends, we must aspire to an understanding, to a quality of background, and seeing what predominates ¿ how is such poor aspirations possible ?

Mediocrity is evident in what is said and done, and despite the evidence many people are enthusiastic about nothing, and couples are formed without providing enriching exchanges. Bonds can last for years without going anywhere, where there is no development nor benefit from the basic emptiness, absence of project and inability to transit qualitative values.

Meaningful words and actions for some it may be the opposite for others. then is not words or actions, it is our conceptions, our ideals which determine its importance or not.

The words should serve to clarify, instruct, push us to improve. The actions must in fact execute the prior learning to build new presents that constantly expands the potential. Words are the engine, the actions the implementation.

KNOW HOW TO DECIPHER THE MESSAGES

The base forged in a past allows the present. And today we are preparing the ground for a tomorrow. Nothing happens with more, there is always a trigger which ends in a manifestation. Between the abstraction of the idea and the concretion in facts, will determine some results that will leave an effect. And in this state that we move between consciousness and unconsciousness, sometimes the echo is optimal and other times it leads to problems.

People in the current situation of impasse and uncertainty, only thinks of his own self interest, in material goals, in bars and beatches. After years damaging the planet, increasing pollution, widening the rift of difficulties between rich and poor, instead of making deep reflections by asking yourself how we got to this mess and we are now limited and conditioned by previous actions, the important thing seems to be to consume and go partying.

The virus is the trigger to rethink life personally and collectively. The suppoed " normality " was not so in the face of so much misery manifested in multiples ways. The message to be deciphered is how we want to live and what we plan to do to create sustainable alternatives.

It is not a question of producing to infinity, of overexploting resources and people, that milions and milions go from one place to another with the enviromental damage that it entails. The system did not work, we generated a bubble which has exploded. Pretend to go back to the point where we were without changing the background and the form, is not understanding what current experience reveal to us.

After the excesses come the restrictions, which is where we stand. Pending to satisfy physical desires and material goals, those affected are health and the economy for having abandoned living with spiritual principles. And pending only of earnings and cups, without thinking of setting different parameters where everyone is involved, we will not understand the reason for the experience nor will be able to extract a benefit from it.

There are no tribulations without transgressions. Humanity is being judged and tested for what we have done, and complaining  by blaming external issues rinsing away our responsibility is not seeing it clearly.

The " normality " of continuing to destroy or regenerate. We have to decide what we want, to stop the whirlwind of where we were, or to reformulate the existence with sustainable ways and actions for the good of all.

LIVING IS AN INVESTMENT

If we stop and observe what we want and what we do, we will realize that we are continuosly making investments. Is not about money in any particular fund, but in how we manage time and resources so that they can produce benefits.

Between what we want and what suits us is the constant debate to be faced, because the desired does not mean that it has to bring gain or satisfaction, can do it the other way depending on what you are talking about and its impact on us. What we need to find out is where the appropriate lies in any area and prepare us to attract it.

From studies, work, different relationships, various activities, tastes, trends, employment in leisure, we are making investments for a purpose. Provide us with training to access a good profession. Select friendships or possible partners for exchange where we feel comfortable. Spend time on motivating tasks, leisure time. In one way or another we are investing, and this implies the pursuit of enjoyment, of some revenue to be obtained.. But why do we study, why do we work, why do we want friendships

The sensation of well being is the common denominator, Is lawful to seek it, the question lies in knowing how to do it.

If health accompanies us and have the indispensable money, is the evidence of connecting the different links well which lead to a good investment of the movements made. If on the contrary one or more of the aspects mentioned fails, we need to review what we are doing to see that it needs to be changed to reverse the situation.

When the different aspects, both internal and external flow, the investments are made correctly.

When problems accumulate, congestion persists, discomfort prevails and no solution is outlined, no matter how much effort is being made, it does not lead to the desired result, it is a sign of structural deficits and shortcomings.

We must invest with intelligence at every moment to make the day profitable, and persisting in this way we will invest in a life of development and improvement, accessing gradually  to more optimal levels.

 

 

THE LEVEL OF CONVERSATIONS ( II )

All our efforts go in search of quality. No one wants miserable conditions, and the desire for improvement drives us to overcome ourselves. And this so easy to understand it must be extended to conversations.

What happens in the day to day ? The same stereotypes that make the questions and answers are repeated. We follow the standard patterns, improvisation is lacking, turning the exchange of what is said into one more procedure.

Many words, a lot of repetitiveness and very little resolution. It could save the chatter that leads nowhere, and if this tendency prevails it is because one can only give what we one has.

What level is there in couple conversations ? Is there mutual enrichment, an expansion of horizons, a development of consciousness ? Or just go commenting on the day, any anecdotes and little else ? What real interest is there between brothers to know their concerns, how do they feel ? Do we have friendships that can be expressed sincerely, or do we prefere those that tell us what we like to hear ?

To go well the meetings must be synthetic, short-lived and spaced in time, so before the boredom arrives we will finished them.

Focus on the underlying topic, say the precise. More time and more words it means no more satisfaction, as in the drink.

In regular relationships is difficult to find attractive reasons for conversation if people know each other well and the margin for surprise is low. 

What exciting news can be discussed from day to day in the family sphere ? What depth is there in what is spoken in a couple, between parents and children, between friends ?

How many words do we utter in a day, in a year ? How many were necessary and useful ? How many sterile ?

We talk too lightly, and instead of addressing unproductive cheater, we should try to endow ourselves with a quality global, because then we could convey it in conversations.

Do we want exchanges with essence or content gaps ?

THE LEVEL OF CONVERSATIONS ( I )

Through words we communicate, and with these we establish conversations. We transmite knowledge, opinions, sensations, and this happen each day several times.

We can find in occasional situations, crossing some words. Others asking or asking us for information. For work, family or friendly encounters. The reasons can be various, where the important thing is that the commented either more or less have substance.

We must know what we say and why we say it. To talk it means leaving  our center, and if we are to make it for profit. This consideration is not taken into account in banal society that surrounds us, where straaw and little grain prevail.

Conversations can bring together or separate, resolve or spoil conflicts, show us sincerity or lie, encouraage or depress, raise or sink, all lies in the meaning of the words and the tone.

We should ask ourselves : how many conversations are necessary and how many are expendable ?  Of all the speech what percentage is useful ? Of regular or sporadic meetings, how many provide learning ? how many make us think ? how many of us are excited for conversations ? how many indifferent or boring ?

A lot of people when they haven´t seen each other make the typical comment : we have to stay. The question is : stay to talk about what ? If there is not enough affinity, similar interests, a similar level, catching up on what´s new can be done in minutes. And once updated, where will the licensee to exchange arguments, or assumptions lie ?

Most have worldly interests, and these are limited and transitory. The conversations of those involved are repetitive, revolving around the same spheres. From time to time changes one tab  and is replaced by another , but the background remains the same.

Is there a deep interest in getting to know the other ? we are able to externalize what is hidden inside us ? how many people with their intensity can make us vibrate with what they say ? how many want to go beyond the routine repetitiveness of many conversations ?

How we express ourselves, the topics covered, the footprint we leaves or the quick forgetfulness, highlight the level of each one, and the capacity for influence.

Talking sooner or later is inevitable , the question is for what and what to put on or take off when it happens.