APOLOGIZE. AND THEN WHAT ! ( I )

When someone apologizes it is because an error has occurred, a negligence, a blow, some misguided words or other motives where the offender recognizes the discomfort or harm by becoming consciousness with empathy that drives the subject to apologize. There are minor incidents, of medium or large size, according to the particular valuation of each. The much or little or nothing depends on what is considered important and/or significant. By not being able to reverse it what is said or done with was has entailed. If we have fallen with a push, if someone broke a glass, if we have been humiliated, saying sorry does not change the experience. The question is : Could it have been avoided ?If everything that happens has a purpose, surely the assailant and the agressor they needed to play the role of victim and executioner to have the opportunity to observe in depth where the origin can be, reveal it and be able to correct the precise. Action comes or back ? Karma paid for the victim or new by the agressor ? We will have to find out previous behaviors, ways of acting, relationships that have led us to the episode. There is a double recognition when we said forgive, I´m sorry. The incorrectness and affectation in the person who receives. If it was to wipe out outstanding debts, instead ob being annoyed by the inconvenience, we should that to the offender for the opportunity to release charges that sooner or later it was convenient to get rid of it. Is the agressor really ? Is the victim really ? Or is it to restore harmony ? It is a matter of following a process of events of what we have manifested. Insignificant or relevant incidents are signs. We have to be careful to the movements and possible consequences. Mismatches should be used to take precautionary measures thanks to the experience. Clumsy forms must be used to redirect expressions or actions. Apologizing is a good symptom that the offender recognizes the mistake and its incidence. To mend oneself is the contribution of becoming aware, passing from the incorrection to the correction. Each non flawless episode is an opportunity to increase the attention, learn, and calculate better what we say or do.