WHAT DO WE WANT TIES FOR ? ( I )

Why do you want changes ? To  improve the existing one by replacing it with something else. What do we want ties for ? To establish more satisfactory conditions not achieved before the bond. This is a consistent approach, and in any significant modification it is necessary to observe the context and benefits offered by being free from conditioning obligations, and the restrictions of mobility, time, space and resources that entails to acquire an habitual bond or of daily coexistence.                                                                             The idyosincrasy of the person and longings can favor internalization or externalization. If is toward intenalization, without a doubt the constant presence of someone is an obstacle to having moments of silence, peace and collection for the practice of exercises, instruction and reflection. Living as a couple requires maximum coupling, a fit that begins at the mental level with similarity of ideas, complementary emotionality that generates proximity and purposes in a similar direction. All the factors driving to the union, because in short it is about this.                                                                                     What do we often observe ? People attracted by the physical, by a singularity, some talent, that captivates at the beginning, and as times passes and characteristics are discovered and above all shortcomings, the initial enthusiasm decays if there is no solidity that can sustain it.                                                                  It all lies in words and actions. What is said, what is done, the tone, the manner, they will incline towards what we like or dislike. The question is : What you like about certain words or actions that captivate and from here think about tying up with this person ? Given the prevailing social mediocrity the overvaluation makes it all the more special, and this for be lacking in remarkable people.                                                  The gaps we don´t know how to fill by ourselves disconnect from our center pending the periphery, with the belief that a specific peson  with its deficits, selfishness and immaturity will fill us, are unrealistic fantasies.                                                                                                                                                          Subconsciously we want to tie ourselves to someone because deep down we know we will be tested, and the link will involve precise experiences and situations for learning. This will be only possible with a developed consciousness, and with the desire of perfect our expressions and behavior, if there is no such motivation, then share chats, money and perhaps activities, but without a purpose of growth, the tie it will not make us better nor will the supposed satisfaction occur as we imagined.                                                  Ties to go where, to do what ? To perpetuate rutines and boredom, or to take on challenges that encourage effort to expand individual and commom potential ? Limit ourselves for development work, or have a part time company that mortgages life.