WHAT DO WE WANT TIES FOR ( II )

The essential point for a nexus to report profit is the fit. We check it inside a clock, a circuit, or the key and the door.                                                                                                                                                      Everyone has a uniqueness, we will not find anyone exactly alike manifesting in everything like us, therefore, in the differences lies the effort if it is intended to combine the contributions of each part.           If we want fluid exchanges we have to find out our own character to know where the strengths and weaknesses are in order to proceed appropriately in each relationship and context that allows the best fit for the intended objectives.                                                                                                                            There must always be an interest that pushes us to leave us and have bridges of proximity with someone.   ¿ what are we looking for ? ¿ what exactly do we want ? ¿ what can the other provide us that we can not ? ¿ and what can we offer in exchange ? In order to make a suitable approach, the wider the self  knowledge, the better it can be the favorable result in the intended. If we don´t know how to define why we are like this nor distinguish whether we are on the right track or not, coupling with someone will have little chance of success. Unfortunately, this is what has been observed time and time again.                                             Unconsciously we acquire ties to some characteristic we like, retreating to a very narrow margin with respect to the whole, and once immersed in the adventure of commitment, the day to day awakens us from the illusion with " the lot " of each one, the complete package of who we are, surfacing disagreements, tensions and discomfort, and what seemed so beautiful suddenly lands us.                                                   We should not expect the feeling of well being from a single person with his impurities and shortcomings, why the most precious goods are intangible, and peace, silence, tranquility, and recollection come from within.                                                                                                                                                                What real progress have couples experienced after decades of coexistence individually or together ? Have we deciphered what we had to learn, polish, amend through the other to improve our expressions ? Of the previous imaginations of supposed satisfaction, what percentage has been evidenced ?  how many times have we thought of undoing the link due to boredom, stagnation and without a purpose that justifies the continuity ?                                                                                                                                                       It is the calculation of various factors that prevents the merger and the progress of the exchanges. The superficiality that permeates the relationship deprives of experiencing quality, and if we add the selfish part and considerable immaturity, it is not possible to achieve the purpose that must be provided by the fit of the two distinct identities working as a unit.