DO CONSTANT RELATIONSHIPS IMPROVE AND SATISFY US ? ( II )

To be able to generate a relationship with the best possible coupling, it is necessary to fit in three fundamental aspects : being at the same height, going in the same direction and at the same speed.            The foundation of what is subsequently unleashed lies in thought. If one of the members has a high level, lofty ideals and the other moves away from these parameters, the foundation will shake and what may come next. It is important to go in the same direction. If the goals of one of the parties are quite different from the other, it will make it difficult to connect in common. And speed implies dynamism, initiative, and once again, if the other person is passive and conformist, it will be an obstacle to carrying out tasks together.                                                                                                                                                          It  all comes down to conversations, company and sharing resources. What substantial, instructive conversations usually prevail ? The company we want, so we don´t feel alone, to talk about how the day went ? And the maintenance resources that can be equitable or by one of the two.                                      Of all these components do conversations broaden the vision in perspective ? We teach, we learn, frequent contacts lead us to a gradual expressive polishing showing us more intelligent, more sensitive, attentive, considered ? Are resources used for the indispensable and mundane affairs or also for activities aimed at progressive development ? With these exposures, what percentage of relationships are or would be truly beneficial, improving over time and feeling satisfied ? The difficult thing would be to find them because the main thing is to be tied by emotional evaluations that hinder observing with the necessary breadth the possible advantages and disadvantages of the other person.                                                                          To experience high qualitative vibrations, we must first introduce them into ourselves, otherwise the exchanges will be mediocre, lacking true interest, only dabbling in the superficial.                                    How many are driven by beauty, sex, money, to have services, thinking about their own desires and interests but not about the other person, who possible do not tune in to the most fundamental thing, which is to feel true affection and strive to offer the best version, thinking precisely about the other person.

DO CONSTANT RELATIONSHIPS IMPROVE AND SATISFY US ( I )

There are relationships of the time where once they have fulfilled their role fade away. The school and work stage maintains bonds for years and when the time comes they end where each one preserves their independence. When we want to establish persistent bonds with a partner and/or children , the room for maneuver is conditioned by space, time and resources.                                                                                  What drives us to desire someone´s constant presence ? Charming words, certain actions, artistic skills, beauty ? Have we calculated the cost of these transfers for just a few hours a day ? Close and habitual ties aim to learn by fitting in the different singularities that come into play. This potential for growth is not reflected in facts because each person acts according to their own criteria.                                                  Why do we want to lose or sacrifice privacy and freedom by depriving ourselves of moments of recollection ? Because socially influenced, the idea of having a partner and/or children must involve rewarding emotional experiences, and this will depend on the temperament, the capabilities of the members, and observing the prevailing superficiality it is difficult to forge exciting situations.                  The longing for constant closeness is for love ? What kind of love ? Interested and selfish ? To give and share ? What can we give, what can we share ? For who are we are will show it, and if there are flaws and lack of quality, events will reflect it. No one can fill internal voids from the outside. Others are there for sporadic exchanges, only permanent contact with ourselves can make us better. Enjoying silence, peace and tranquility are the most precious intangible goods, and no one from the outside can give them to us.  Most people imagine, assume or believe that someone will introduce elements of insomnia, knowing that the charm of an attraction lasts a short time and boredom is what remains. We should not rush into mortgaging our lives. It is very easy to get involved, and difficult to untie the knot.