RELATIONSHIPS ( IV )

Detachment is basic to any relationship. It comes from an inner strength, of knowing how to look beyond the aparent, to trust in the future without relying on anyone specific. Through detachment we should not limit ourselves because of the fears, availability of a wide margin of maneuver dedicating it to cultivate the latent powers. On the contrary, close ties constraints, reduce the freedom of action to enter into contact with other people and perform activities given the case. If we focus primarily on someone as if it were a supplier in vaious aspects, we cease to be fully us becoming dependent in order to obtain hypothetical expectations.
The internal void breeds dissatisfaction and we wrongly believe that from outside we filled, and it is not. How can we pretend that fills us someone who is empty ! It is a fiction that people want to, but the truth is that the relationships are usually superficial, insubstantial and little rewarding to the extent of emptiness that have those involved it.
Why the couples do not achieve introduce harmony that they would like to ? As a matter of vision and claims poorly framed. Men do not have to see women as sex objects or maids that facilitate life, this is primary. Man has to be fixed in the female attributes for incorporating them in. And women don´t have to search in the man a source of resources, a company, security, but observe the male qualities to integrate in them. Be complemented and supplemented from the respective individualities without any dependencies, submission or imposition.
Humans with all its shortcomings, impurities and imperfections cannot provide fullness dutifully in the head or the heart of the other, therefore it has to be clear that relationships are bridges to go from one side to another to exchange. But if we are looking for peace, serenity, wisdom, we have to forge in us, and nobody from the outside can do so in our place.
Detachment is cultivated by getting closer to God so that we feel the satisfaction of whatever relationship. A limited awareness not will enable us to experience the fullness.
The human love can operate a time, feeling at the end of a time that we are missing something more, believing that we can succeed in someone new different, but by the evidence that this don´t arrive becausse the cherished cannot com from the demostrations below, but from the exchanges with highest regions trhrough a lifestyle and ideals that we connect with our higher self.