SEE OBJECTIVELY OR WHAT I WANT TO SEE

We all want to see according to our desires and what is considered important or valuable. Know how to observe, realize what is around, requires identification. What we see in the environment is what propel us in our behavior. Received messages can come in different ways. Subtle or obvious warnings indicating disadvantages if we do according to what. Driven by selfish desires and harmful actions, despite knowing it to a greater or lessen extent, will result in worse consequences than the possible gain or satisfaction that has pushed to execute what was done previously.                                                                                           We must awaken within us the strenght to perceive the difference between the good and the negative and make the right choice. Distinguish what pushes up or down, which bring forth the good manners or the tension of the bad manners of discordant pretensions.                                                                                    Civilization remains in chaos because narrow vision driven by personal interests prevail without realizing the impact on a large scale. The interaction between the individual and the collective is constant and interdependent, and if the approaches are individualistic it is because of our vital continuity depend exclusively on us.                                                                                                                                            Darkness is ignorance, light is knowledge. To more vision more chances to proceed correctly. To more darkness more possibilities to be wrong. Before acting we have to decide how to give vent to ideas or goals. Once underway affecting the environment or other people the outcome depends on various uncontrollable factors.                                                                                                                                     Do we see objectively with respect to ourselves or the vision toward others ? Do we know how to see with perspective and equanimity ? We only focus on what interests us ? Do we ignore what we dislike and pretend it doesn´t exist ? All the problems derive from the non coupling between the transmitting part and the receiving part, that in relationships we exercise both functions. This indicates that we must know what we want, why and what is the ideal form to achieve this by thinking about the final correction in the result. What we want to see or would like does it have a benign or malignant connotation ? Will it generate well being or discomfort ? For the benefit of one party and the detriment of another ?                                          The darkened vision comes from wrong goals driven by the desires of the ego who only see what he wants to see. See clearly it is a sign of greater civilization to locate the parts and the whole in search of justice, not motivated by personal interests.                                                                                                     Short term gains and long term losses, or prudence and rectitude to obtain the appropiate agreement to the merit made. Everything will depend on the vision and attitude adopted.

STERILE CRITICISM OR CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM

What is the purpose of criticism ? Improve the existing one. Before listing what we think is incorrect, we must be sure that whoever we address the criticism will be receptive and will want modify epressions if is appropiate. The foundations of criticism require the confluence of three points. It must be good in its purpose. It must be useful, i. e. applicative. And it must be necessary, for the benefit of the aforementioned and the impact on third parties.                                                                                                                       What drives us to criticize is the correct perception or not of the observer, that he is not acting as he should according to what is considered correct. The critic in question have the full picture at your disposal to judge with equanimity ? Are the ratings in line with your tastes and interests ? Is the criticism thinking of him or the criticized ? What is wrong ? Can it be proven that this is really the case ? What don´t like ? Does the criticism affirm with verifiable arguments or is it an opinion ? The statement must provide evidence to be credible and fulfill the function of amendment. If is an opinion according to particular ideas and values, is subjective, and if the fund can not be improved, does not exercise the objective.                    The critic show displeasure for what really want and it doen´t happen. The speech must be reformulated to achieve the true purpose that is resolve the damaged or certain behaviors. The critic want to correct, optimize, in order to search perfection. However, if not influence or modify the intended it is of no use and becomes sterile.                                                                                                                                                 The critic must lead by example.To be heard and believable he must set an example. The critic always it must be founded in the positivity after observe and reflect that facilitates a favorable change.                       To see the negative is very easy, especially in a society in search of comfort and little responsibility, and if we add selfishness to it, the percentage of error in behavior is very high.                                                     We aim the bad, we see the bad, we show the bad. Who expresses himself like this can prove that he is impeccable ? Insisting on darkness is due to the inability to introduce more light in us. The sun always shines and is present, if we don´t see it is because with our negativity we have been putting up curtains that prevent us from seeing it.